Divorce Mediation

If you are about to get a divorce, but find your relationship with your soon-to-be ex isn’t so adversarial that you feel you would need attorneys, you likely will still want to seek some form of legal advice. In most states the divorce process is fairly complex and not something you should leave to chance.

The rules of evidence and legal forms are so complex you will find you need a professional to guide you through the process. If you still want to stay out of court and save money on legal fees without sacrificing your assets, and you and your soon-to-be-former-spouse are satisfied with a co-parenting relationship, explore mediation.

Selecting a Mediator

First thing you will want to make sure of, should you choose to pursue mediation as the method of choice for settling your divorce, is that your prospective mediator has an outstanding track record. You will want to find out how many couples they’ve worked with and what percentage settled successfully. Once you know that, you can compare the price, time investment, and other factors such as whether you both get along with the mediator before choosing one. The important thing is to take the time to collect adequate information and make an informed choice. You only get one shot at divorcing smoothly, invest the necessary time and research to get it right.

What Exactly Is Divorce Mediation?

Divorce Mediation is a way of finding solutions to issues that arise during even the most amicable divorce, such as child custody, spousal support, and property distribution. During mediation, both parties to the divorce and their attorneys meet with a court-appointed third party, a mediator. The mediator’s duty is to assist both parties in reaching a settlement in their divorce without having to resort to the adversarial system in the courts.

You and your ex-to-be will have the chance to discuss issues and clear up any disagreements, and ultimately reach a mutually satisfactory agreement.

The mediator is neutral and objective. It’s not their job to force an agreement on you and your ex-to-be, nor to sort out problems between you. They merely act as an intermediary. They may offer opinions or suggestions but ultimately they’re not allowed to impose a settlement on you and your ex-to-be.

Some Advantages of Mediation

Mediation saves time and money, and can allow you to sidestep divorce court. It is fair to all involved, is confidential and avoids the expense of drawn out litigation.